My journey to drumming circle
5 Years ago, in 2021, I was gifted a 16" Remo frame drum by my husband and Divine partner. I had always wanted a drum but had NO idea how to play one let alone hold a drum circle. Two days later, I picked up my drum and started to play it. Yet I didn't play it, the drum played me; Every time I tried to play a rhythm, the spirit of the drum took over, playing it's own rhythm, its own song. I would play it on my own, in my room, in our woodland. But that was all.
Until March this year (2026).
I had moved back from 25 years in France, in December, and in January was invited to a native American drum circle, by someone I didn't know, however the timing was off and so I didn't go. In March I was asked again, and this time it felt right. The people weren't my tribe but the feeling of drumming in a group had me hooked!
The next day I realised that I couldn't possibly wait a month for the next circle. I HAD to drum with PEOPLE. I put out a simple post on Social media and suddenly here were all these women wanting to drum with me who had been waiting for this!
The rest is history.
I gathered the women in circle, never having held a circle and they loved it. They wanted more!
The Bourne to Be drumming circle was born!
Bourne to drum is so much more than drumming together, it’s a safe space to connect with like-minded souls, to be heard and seen, and gorw together.
Drumming is more than something we do. It’s something we feel.
Drumming:
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Grounds us
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Reconnects us to who we are, our feminine power
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Releases stress and anxiety
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Shifts stagnant energy
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Clears the mind
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Awakens our intuition
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Helps us find our own rhythm, our own voice
We don't drum to set a rhythm, instead we allow our drums to guide us and through rhythm, we connect - with each other, and with ourselves. There are no rules. We simply close our eyes, begin where we are, and allow the drum to guide us.
It becomes a journey - with the drum, with each other, and within.
And it’s powerful. SO powerful!
The energy rises, expands, and ripples far beyond us , beyond our bodies, beyond the room… out into the world.
But these circles aren't just about drumming. It's about being in the flow. And not forcing that we HAVE to drum. Sometimes we need to be held, or dive into a conscious conversation. We may cry, and sometimes we have the biggest belly laughs.
There's no rituals, no highly spiritualised moments, it's simply a moment to be, to release and connect
It's authentic, raw and simple.
We drum, we talk, we sing, we cry, we laugh. We come as we are and we leave empowered, supported and lift.
Magical things happen at Bourne to Drum
" I’d like to say thank you girls for your very warm welcome to my first drumming session with you yesterday. For me it was very emotional and very moving. Returning home I slept for 3 hours" Marlene
"Thank you Nicky once again, honestly it was the strangest thing for me today. I can honestly say there is rarely a moment where I’m not questioning myself or over analysing or thinking I’ve done something to offend someone but when we were singing I felt so comfortable; I felt at peace and incredibly connected. I forgot myself for a short while and selfishly I didn’t care about anyone or anything else for those moments, the only thing I could think was how beautiful it was and how beautiful all of us singing together was.
It was so lovely to not feel conscious but to feel all the other things was just amazing. It felt very powerful." Hayley